“Are you REALLY a ‘good thing’?”

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By Angel Simmons ©


Many women desiring to be married consider themselves to be a good catch. They proudly stand in faith on  Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.” Other translations say the man finds “treasure” and a “good life”. But is that REALLY who you are?


The definition of good means: to be desired or approved of; having the qualities required for a particular role; that which is morally right; righteousness; benefit or advantage to someone or something.” In Genesis 1:31, “ God looked over all He had made, and saw that it was very good!” It is clear that from the beginning, woman was created to be beneficial. She filled a need that only she could. In Genesis 2:18, God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” Women were designed to serve a great purpose that is rooted in relationship. So, before you go proclaiming to be a “gift” to someone, CHECK YOUR ROOTS.


After the fall of man, part of the woman’s curse comes in Genesis 3:15, “And I will cause hostility between you (the serpent) and the woman…”, and at the end of verse 16 “And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.” It seems to me that through the curse, women became acutely sensitive to the attacks of the enemy and developed a resistance to submission. The curse inevitably made it extremely difficult for women to hear from God and to be a true helpmeet. Through the redemption and salvation of Jesus Christ, man’s relationship with God was restored to its former Glory. But there is a continual renewing of the mind that must take place in order to be brought into proper alignment as it was before the fall.


If you are still “waiting to be found”, use the time as an opportunity to self-examine your relationships. Your relationship with God, friends, family and money all paint a picture of the wife you will become. Are you committed to the Lord and HIS plans for your future? Do you regularly spend uninterrupted prayer time with Him? Do the two of you have conversations- or do you do all the talking? Are your friendships based on trust and loyalty? Are you open and transparent, or suspicious and distant? Are you quick to extend forgiveness- or are you easily offended? Can your family depend on you to pray them through a crisis? Do you change the atmosphere for good when you arrive? Are you the one helping to pull people up- or the one who always has their hand out? Do you pay your bills on time? Are you responsible with the management of your money? Are you constantly seeking ways to grow your income and net worth- or are you just seeking someone who will spoil you?


Our relationships define our character. If God is not first in your life, how will you make your husband your priority? If you don’t maintain healthy friendships, how will you ever succeed in a life-long commitment? If your family ties are toxic, how will you keep the harmony in your home? If you are not building wealth, what contribution will you make to your children’s inheritance? So, when your husband finally finds you, WHO exactly will he find? The contentious Proverbs 21 woman who drives her husband to the corner of the roof? Or a virtuous and capable Proverbs 31 woman who greatly enriches her husband’s life? Hmmm…


Let us all go for GREATER.


September 23, 2013