“The Desire of My Heart”

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By Angel Simmons ©

I hear many single women talking about marriage these days. They swoon over bible verses promising them a “Boaz”. They shout in church when the preacher tells them their husband is on the way. They even take the time to list all the qualities they want in a mate and offer it up to God as prayer for “the desire of their heart“. But how much work are they really willing to put in?

There is a huge difference in simply wanting to be married and desiring to be “his wife“. When you discover your passion, you should notice that old list of preferred qualities has become a list of specific things you already love about him. How he looks at you as if he’s studying your face, the way his fingertips grip your back when he hugs you, how he supports your vision but still fusses when you don’t stop to take care of yourself- this is that man. The way he taps on his leg when he likes a song, how he holds the door open no matter how far away you are, even when he hands you his things to carry in your purse- this is that man. When he sits and talks for hours knowing you both have work tomorrow, how he laughs at all your corny stories over and over again, when he allows you to grieve or cry or vent for as long as you need to- this is THAT man. He’s the one who makes you think, who challenges your theories, who operates in excellence, who asks for and values your opinion, who harmonizes with you in the car, and who leaves you breathless just being near him. When you see your future, you immediately see him in it because you desire to share a lifetime with him.

woman with vision

To the future wives: If someone suitable and available has carved out a piece of your heart, make your prayers SPECIFIC. Go to God with his name on your lips and ask for discernment. Don’t misunderstand me- I’m not advocating your “pursuit” of him. And if you’re not already good friends, you should totally steer clear of this area. But if you are close, and you truly desire “that husband”, then you need to be aligned with and prepared for the destiny that God has called him to. You must first know his purpose and how you can serve him to be the best helpmeet. You have to be fit- mentally, physically and spiritually– and willing to do this prep work. Marriage is a partnership, and you will be responsible for helping that man reach his full potential and become everything that God has created him to be. So, if HE is the ONE you desire, then get with God and get in position. But if you just want to be married……. well……. then keep right on shouting. God will never trust you with His son- any of them- if you don’t qualify.

May 7, 2014

2 thoughts on ““The Desire of My Heart”

    Andrea said:
    May 21, 2014 at 2:50 pm

    Great post! I agree in part with your view, my only concern is that it doesn’t seemed balanced. Becoming a wife is something that should be happening as we submit in our relationship with God. We are brides before we ever become brides : ) Moreover we don’t lay aside who we are because we marry a man. When we marry the right man our paths merge they don’t diminish in any way. God took us from the side of man not the back of man, we walk together. When God gave the command to Adam, He gave the command to Eve at the same time. So they both have the same assignment but different roles out of covenant not out of duty. The couple have a commitment to fulfill with each other and to God is my point.

      Love's Great Design said:
      May 21, 2014 at 3:24 pm

      Hey Andrea! You’re absolutely right… This article was not at all written to be balanced. It was directed to single women who desire a “specific” husband (one that God has already turned her head to) not just a woman who just wants to be married. It speaks to the investment she will need to make as she positions herself to be a suitable helpmeet for that particular man. In no way am I advocating that women lay aside who they are, take a back seat or stray from the unique destiny that God called each of us to. And yes, I agree that there must be a spiritual foundation and commitment to a woman’s relationship with and submission to the Lord. I also agree that in marriage, couples walk together and have relational assignments to fulfill. Neither of those two points were my focus here. My goal in this message was simply to bring awareness to the future wife’s role as a covenant partner in helping to bring out God’s best in her husband and the work that accompanies that task. Hope that helps… And thanks for reading!

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