“It’s not you…”

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By Angel Simmons ©

Sometimes you just have to face the facts: They don’t want to be in relationship. They’re not interested in building anything- not a friendship, a romance, or a business partnership. They won’t make the time or are too busy looking elsewhere. It has absolutely nothing to do with your worth as a person, or the sacrifices you’ve made, or the value of your business. Some people are broken, emotionally unavailable, or not ready. And try as you may, but as far as they’re concerned, YOU are “optional”.


Now, I’m not saying you have to burn that bridge (although the opportunity may have expired if they do finally “come around” later). The truth of the Word is that relationship, restoration and reconciliation is God’s desire for us. However, when they are either not willing or uninterested, there’s simply no foundation to stand on. If they won’t reach out, are unresponsive, or continually cause you to feel insignificant- it’s time to take a step back. At some point you have to pick up the pieces of your heart that you’ve laid on the table and dust them off. Invite God to mend it, to refresh your spirit, and to give you a renewed desire to continue in His love DESPITE your pain.

Don’t harden your heart or allow it to grow cold. Let the love of Christ resound louder than the anger and frustration and hurt and sadness screaming inside of you. FORGIVE. Walk in the peace and assurance that God will indeed divinely connect you to whomever you need- the one willing to do the work, the one who will love you relentlessly, or the one who shares your vision. And oddly enough, oftentimes, you will find that they were there all along…

April 14, 2014


2 thoughts on ““It’s not you…”

    Rodney "RJ" Young (Music Composer | Producer) said:
    April 14, 2014 at 2:09 pm

    WOW………. EXTREMELY TRUE! Everybody isn’t for everyone, personally or business-wise…. need to hear this… thanks for sharing!

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