By Angel Simmons ©
I should have been enjoying myself. My friend was having a blast at his party, making rounds and pausing to hug almost everyone he passed. All the while, I sat there thinking about how I could be at home having a donut and talking to a close friend about the Word and Love and ministry and the people in our lives and what makes us who we have become. The longer I scanned the room, the better I was able to see the emptiness in the eyes of the smiling guests. On the surface, they were laughing and dancing. But in their eyes, there was no connection to who they were with. Why do we continue choose to spend time with one another in places and doing activities that make it impossible for us to relate? True connections involve a certain level of sharing and disclosure that are both enriching and mutually satisfying.
Intimacy is defined as “a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group”. It can also be described as an expression of that type of relationship. I dare to suggest that you constantly and purposely seek out opportunities where the people you claim to love are free to express the dynamics of intimacy. It doesn’t happen in a room with a hundred people trying to talk louder than the music. But in a room with seven or even two curled up and fully engaged in the conversation, there is an opportunity for the deep understanding and growth that takes place in being one with each other. It is here in intimacy that we learn to live as God intended relationship to function. We develop as covenant partners, not as mere friends, to reflect the true design for Kingdom living… ONEness.
At the end of the night when the party is over, the concert has ended and the show is finished- are you really any deeper in relationship with the people you just gave your life to? Because if your heart was not moved, your spirit not stirred, your intellect not stimulated, your faith not increased and your Love not poured out then WHY? Why are we letting distance and space separate us from abundant and fulfilling connections? Without intimacy in our relationships, we completely miss the point of living. Our eyes will then either reflect that emptiness in our soul, or they will reveal the light of Love that has been woven into our heart. I urge you to get a revelation of what relationship was intended for. Love will always guide us into that level of intimacy and ONEness…if only given the opportunity.
January 19, 2013